Me, him, her, and the dog!

Its Friday and I'm on my way back to NYC as we speak blogging via blackberry. Seriously, I'm dumb annoyed.

I really need your advice on this one so pleasseee read the entire thing.

I live in a two bedroom apartment with what I thought would be just my roommate and I. We both go to the same university, knew each other from high school. So its convenient. We split the rent, cable, and electric evenly. Back in August she told me she would be babysitting a dog a few days a week would that be okay? I said fine because I like doggies. Turned out to be her dog which lives with us. Don't really have a problem with it because I like the little thing but still why did she have to lie?

Whom I do have a problem with is her boyfriend. He is a cool guy but he is ALWAYS at my house no lie 7 days a week. One weekend she went home to NY for the entire weekend, I come home and here he goes.
Me: where is T?
Him: she went home to NY
Me: so what r u doing here? Him: watching the dog.

WTF!!! Can't u take the dog to your house. Then he goes, " I'm leaving, I may or may not be back." And strolls out the house with her key which she left him. I left the house for one second to go visit with the girls upstairs, he locked the door. I had to call her all the way In NY to tell her to tell her BF to open my fucking door. Then he has to nerve to say, "I thought u were going home." Nigga (and I never use that word, so u know I'm pissed) I am home, I pay the bills here not you."
I came home wed night from NY, there he goes again.
ME: Where is T?
Him: somewhere doing a project.

So I just migrated to my room. I feel like I can't be comfortable in my own house because he is there all the time when she is or isn't there. She walks around in her bra and stuff...I wanna be comfortable like that too. But ofcourse she can do that because its her man and I'm another girl. I can't do that cause he is always there. If I'm dressed skimpy in my room, I always have to put on extra clothes just to walk to the fridge or bathroom. I've had company over but best believe they leave when I do.

I don't wanna come off like I'm hating or being a bitch, and I know I have to keep in account that she also lives and pay bills there too. Things between us have been fine since we moved in and I don't wanna cause a strain. I'm not even there all week. I go home to NY friday mornings and come back Monday night. Therefore, I'm really only there 3 days a week. And for those three days I wanna be comfortable.
THIs IS WHERE U GUYS COME IN!!! what do ya'll think I should do that's reasonable for us both?

P.s. Ladies he even leaves my toilet seats up and empties my ice trays...ugh!!!

Conscious, Cautious, and Careful!!!

A friend of mine sends me a message over Myspizzle saying, "yo I witnessed some wild shit tonight." Me being Curious Ashmalli was like "tell me." & here goes his response:

"on my way back from the strip club last night my boy pickd up some druggd up white girl brought her to my udda boy crib n he beat it right in front of us...raw. n b4 he picked her up she looked like her pimp or boyfriend beat her up...eww. i am not shmokin wit that dude nooo mooo."

Wow Was all I could say. I saw this friend of mine today, and he proceeded to tell me the rest of the story. You know how the girl was extra drunk & she obviously was totally out of it.

Now I have mad issues with this situation which is why I'm thoroughly disgusted.

1. WTF would you have random sex with some random chick, and "raw" at that. People wonder how they get shit A.k.A. diseases...this is exactly how. It's almost like-let's call him Mr. Shupid ass- was asking for it.

& then poor girl. Although she put herself in the situation, I completely sympathize with her. She obviously has some kind of problems to have been in a situation like this one. & you know after, they just dumped the poor girl on the sidewalk. What an asshole. I swear.

As a generation we need to be more conscious, cautious, and careful when it comes to our very own well beings. If we don't look out for us, no one else will. This is exactly why "Young people ages 15-24 account for 42% of new HIV infections." Yes it is researched folks, that's almost half.

So smarten up folks. We are living in not so friendly times.

Are you talking care of you?

Everything!

SO I haven't written in awhile because things have been kind of crazy. Probably way too much to write but here goes everything. Let's see. Different aspects of my life would include school, my job, family, friends, and the boyfriend. Believe it or not people, I'm having problems with EVERY aspect I just listed.

Let's start with school. Obviously it is the end of the semester and I am so backed up with work it's not even funny. Papers to write, finals to take, OMG when will it all end. I know, i know, it sounds like I'm complaining but after 3 yrs of college, I swear I never get use to this end of semester madness. But of course everything seems more difficult because...

The boyfriend is acting up. Yea, I'm putting it out there. Hey, we all have ways in which we express our feelings, and this just happens to be mine. After almost three years of the going back and forth he has decided this just isn't working. Isn't it crazy how it takes two people to get into the relationship but just one to get out of it? You have no say, how you feel doesn't matter. All you can do it accept the fact that the person you know deep down inside is meant for you, can't see the real truths. & the hardest part is after trying about 4 times to make things work you know the LOGICAL thing to do is to let go. That's what men do, think "logically." But it's difficult when your heart tells you, letting go isn't the way to go. It's all way too difficult. So...you folks could only understand the type of stress I'm under. & Really this seems to be ruining other parts of my life too...i.e. my job.

The other day because I was having a discussion with him about the relationship, I totally missed work which I thought would be okay at the time. I mean come on, I personally believe nothing at Club Monaco is more important than me doing what I think is more important for me. But not only that, my boss be trippin'. Yep I said it. That chick is crazy. She obviously thinks I'm not doing a good job there which is blowing my mind. I mean I did wonderfully on my appraisal, got a raise a month ago, but yet I'm not doing well. tsk tsk. It's okay though, I can handle her.

Oh yea, so I guess I exaggerated. My friends are the shit and I don't know where I would be without them :) and my family is quite the supportive bunch. I guess I just wanted to get it all out and hopefully I'll be back soon with more positive post.

On a brighter note, Happy Mother's Day to all of the mommies out there :)