XOXOXOXO

you guys know I had to do it, i ♥ these signs.

Happy Valentines Day my lovlies. I hope you all know not just today, but everyday I love you guys!!!

Can I Have a Coke Please!

The little girl sat on her aunt's lap bouncing up and down with excitement.

"Auntie can I have a coke pleaseee," she whined.

Her aunt, only nine years younger than the child, shook her head.
"Your mom said no soda," she said trying her best to maintain a stern voice.

"I won't tell mommy if you don't tell."

She smiled at the child's cleverness.

"Okay. Just this once Ashmalli."

The little girl hopped off her leg, raced to the door, and put on her shoes.

"Ready!"She shouted at her aunt.

*****

The aunt poured the little girl a half class of coke, and began to drink the rest of the drink from the bottle. Seeing this, the little girl knew she needed to have some more. She began to gulp the soda. It burnt her little throat but she didn't stop. She squeezed her eyes together, stomped her little feet, all the while coninuing to drink.
"Ahhh. All done aunty. Can I have some..." But before she could finish the sentence she saw the empty bottle.

Her aunt began to laugh,
"I told you you could only have a bit."

The little girl sighed and shook her head. She had always been taught about greed and today she received the ultimate lesson. Her little soul was grateful.
.
"You're th best aunty, I love you."

"I love you too niece," the aunt replied giving the little girl a hug.

*****

True story ya'll. Even though I'm 21, and my aunt is 30 now. I still look up to her in that way.
Happy birthday aunt Ange!!!

Happy Birthday 2 my #1 Guy

So Today is My Daddy's Birthday!!! Happy Birthday Daddy-o.

He turns 48 today, Sorry dad for putting you out there hehe.

Guys, my dad is super duper. He gives the best advice, I can talk to him just about everything, and I know that he will ALWAYS be there for me. I know some people have problems with depending on their dads but for me, like my girl Frenchie from Grease said, "the only man a girl can depend on is here daddy" & for me that's just about right.

I love you daddy & I hope your special day turns out to be just as special as you are!!

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!

1st Stop: This Virgolicious Woman's pre-vegas showdown!!!!

Alrighty!!! Well my B-day has come and gone and events are still "poppin' off" as the younger kids would say lol. First I had a birthday party at my house to kick it off. U know, this included some family and friends:

Happy 21st 2 me!!


Blew out some candles & made a few wishes


My cousins were there in full affect...


...And so was most of my girlfriends :)


My mommy and I-She's got a big daughter now :)

Then on my actual birthday, I pulled a few of my friends together...and we all went out to eat, yum yum!


First Legal Drink, WOOP WOOP


Barbielicious huh?! lol


My food was good...and they even made it into a little star.


Even my oldest bff of them all- the conservative christian- made it out...


... & the sisters Sherri & KB 2!


Group shot!!!


A very old "perspective"...Like high school old.


Wearing Lori's hat was fun!!!


I ♥ my bestie


LADIES!!!!


workin' um


Just havin' mad fun!!!!!


I just had to do it...a bunch of flyy women with flyy shoes :)

Next Stop: It's Vegas Baby!!!

Loving in Slow Motion...

So I've woken up with a big ass smile on my face today. I think it could be because I don't have to work today, it's nice and sunny outside...but mostly I think it just has to do with my last post from yesterday. I dunno man...Waking up to first thoughts of a person & thinking about them all the time, without being depressed, worried, or sad, is a great feeling...

Infact if I could choose a song which represents exactly how I feel it would be

Karina Pasian- Slow Motion



Don't you think loving in slow motion is best?

My Favorite Graduates of 2008 :)

So it seems this yr. everyone is either graduating from college or high school...here goes my favorite graduates of 2008:

KEEYA LUV!!!!


First there was prom!!!


Part of the entire group


the prom girl & I


Look at all the graduates ( & Missy takings pic of them )



aww...A really proud Mommy. Aunt Lisa, this is so your accomplishment also.


Remember Keeya Luv...Ashmalli Luvs you. I'm so proud, and I'm always here...no matter what!!!


Had to throw this one in... I love my Cheatham ladies :)

Arnold
So my little cousins also graduated from high school this yr, and I'm SUPER, MAJOR proud of you.


Him & his girlfriend at prom



a Graduation shot


Us at his graduation party


more family at the party, my cousin Annie


& my cousin Nessa

Gabby


Gabby also graduated high school this yr


proud parents :)

saving one of my best for last...the bestfriend Virginia


yep she got that college degree, and we are sooooo proud


such a lovely young woman she's grown into...


... & we love you for life :)

Congrats again to all my favorite graduates of 2008

Questions Unanswered...

I tell you being a girl is tough business. So so much to go through. I think I'm finally ready to ask that question. So far this summer I've been going through a world wind of emotions. First I kinda lost the 1st guy I've ever seriously loved but I guess everyone has to go through that, so what made me think I could escape it. With that notion, I've been trying to look at things on the bright side because really him and I are just not meant to be. Not tryna play him in the least bit, but he's the most selfish person I've ever met. Which leads to my questions unanswered.

Can you love someone and not want to make the relationship work?

- I know people have different notions but I personally believe it's not possible. I'm an only child & I have been for all my life now. I am probably one of the most selfish people you will ever come across (no worries I'm working on it). I usually just think about me, what makes me happy, all that jazz. But with this guy, I was never like that. I loved him so much I put my selfishness aside. I put a lot of effort into the relationship. I planned everything, made all arrangements, all he had to do was show up and he could hardly do that. Puzzling part is, he goes around telling everyone he loves me and we just can't work because he can't give me what I need. Mind you, I like pretty things, but I like to get them for myself so that was never an issue. He meant emotionally. WTF! So I pose another question to you fine blogging folks...

If you really and truly love someone, wouldn't you WANT to give them what they want? At least that's how I felt about him. I was always there...

Now I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place-that is how the saying goes right?
I'm not so trusting of guys anymore, but I guess that's for the best. I swear everyone things they got game. But behind this mini essay I just wrote my questions really are:

-If you love someone, wouldn't you want to give them what the need?
- Can you love someone and not want to make the relationship work.

My Blue Shoes

I finally decided that it's time for my blue shoes, to come home to mama. Sure they aren't like Carrie's Manolo Blahniks, but heck I love them too. See I left them at the ex's house over two months ago, and I still haven't gotten them. I guess I just haven't had the guts to face him but I'm totally ready now. I'm sure my scenario won't end like Carrie's, I'm sure when I get to his house my blue pumps won't be waiting for me in his hands, in fact he might just leave that shit at the door...but hey, it's whatever. So tomorrow will be the day, yes tomorrow sounds good.

What has brought about the fantastic change of courage you ask? Well there's a new interest. Wouldn't wanna call it a love interest, but he's someone I really like, seriously. So I'm good and ready to let go of the past, but in order to do so, I need to bring my Blue shoes into the future; maybe even on a date with the "new guy."

Side note & totally random: Don't have burgers from Juniors- it's no good. I had a dinner date tonight with my brother, and my burger was straight up nasty.

Major Throwback

So tonight I came home from work and felt really tired. Decided to get on YouTube and all of a sudden I was listening to old Whitney hits. This happens to be one of my most favorite.

How Will I Know- Major throwback


My mom usta sing this all the time when I was a little girl and so did I. I usta try to do the dance and everything from the video. Love Whitney man.

What's your favorite Whitney Houston song?

To Be Celebrated or Not?

Today is June 8th. Three years ago this was prom night and I was dancing my life away, here a flash back for ya :)

pretty cute huh?!?!

N E how...yea, so it's prom night and I'm having a grand time celebrating my high school career and there it happens,I meet this guy. No names to be mentioned cause gosh you people already know who he is. We exchanged numbers, actually called, and ended up in 3 yrs of something. 3 years later I'm finally putting that relationship to rest-permanently- and I wonder should it be one to be celebrated much like the prom or should it be looked upon as a major mistake.

Let's make a pros and cons list.

Cons

- I inherited a headache
- also a major heartbreak (I'm better now though :)
- I was never truly myself completely
- I spent ALOT of time crying
- I got more use to being disappointed than any girl should.
- I've been stood up more times than you and all your girlfriends put together
- At the end of the day, I'm not the same girl I use to be

Pros

- I got to experience love
- I met my best friend in the entire world
- I got to inherit an awesome extended family, his
- I now get advice from the smartest women I've ever met, seriously
- I love the munchkin; Malachai- his little brother
- I'm so EFFIN' smarter
- I'm not the same girl I use to be

What do you think? The relationship; to be celebrated or not?

20 FABULOUS REASONS WHY BEING SINGLE IS LOVELY!!!

So today I was on myspace and came across a blog my gurl Drea posted. I loved it and just thought I should share it with you guys so here goes:

20 FABULOUS REASONS WHY BEING SINGLE IS LOVELY!!!

1.

YOU GET TO SLEEP DIAGONALLY IF YOU FEEL THE NEED!!!

2.

THE ABILITY TO HAVE SEX ON YOUR OWN TERMS WHENEVER YOU WANT WITHOUT OBLIGATION!!!

3.

THE ABILITY TO COOK WHAT YOU WANT, WHENEVER YOU WANT WITHOUT A SCHEDULE OR COMPROMISE!!!

4.

THE ABLILITY TO WATCH WHAT YOU WANT ON TV WITHOUT COMPROMISE!!!

5.

THE ABILITY TO PLAY YOUR FAVORITE BAD MUSIC AT MAXIMUM VOLUME!!!

6.

THE BATHROOM STAYS CLEANER FOR LONGER!!!

7.

NO NEED TO STORE EXTRA CLOTHES = MORE ROOM FOR YOUR OWN STUFF!!!

8. YOU GET TO SAVE MONEY ON GAS AS IT IS NOW DAMN NEAR $4.

00 A FUCKING GALLON!!!

9.

YOU ARE FREE TO MEET/CHILL WITH/GET TO KNOW OTHER GUYS/GIRLS WITHOUT FEELING GUILTY!!!

10.

(FOR THE LADIES) YOU DON'T HAVE TO WORRY ABOUT HOW YOU LOOK BEFORE BED!!!

11.

MORE SLEEP, NO ARGUING OR DISCUSSING FEELINGS OR PROBLEMS AT FOUR AM!!!

12.

YOU HAVE MORE TIME TO WORK OUT, RUN ERRANDS, DISCOVER NEW HOBBIES, OR DO NOTHING - ON YOUR OWN SCHEDULE!!!

13.

YOU HAVE MORE TIME TO RECONNECT W/ YOUR GIRLFRIENDS/HOMIES!!!

14.

MORE TIME TO FOCUS ON ACCOMPLISHING YOUR OWN DREAMS!!!

15.

YOU DON'T HAVE TO CONSIDER THE FEELINGS OF ANYONE OTHER THAN YOURSELF!!!

16.

YOU ARE FREE TO TRAVEL WITHOUT HAVING TO EXPLAIN SHIT!!! JUST GET UP AND GO!!!

17. (FOR THE LADIES) YOU CAN WEAR AS MUCH MAKE-UP AS YOU WANT WITHOUT WORRYING ABOUT IT GETTING SMEARED OR RUINED.

(LIP GLOSS FANATICS, YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN!)

18.

NO ONE AROUND TO JUDGE OR QUESTION YOUR LIFESTYLE CHOICES!!!

19.

MORE TIME TO SPEND WITH FAMILY MEMBERS OR LOVED ONES YOU MAY HAVE TAKEN FOR GRANTED (AND WHO KNOWS, THEY MAY BE ABLE TO INTRODUCE YOU TO A SPECIAL PERSON!!)

20.

MOST IMPORTANTLY: BEING SINGLE GIVES YOU TIME TO REDISCOVER SELF-LOVE SO THAT THE NEXT MAN/WOMAN'S LOVE CAN BE FULFILLING AND POSSIBLE!!

-Written by Drea

~ so folks, got any other reasons why you think being single is so darn lovely :)

Everything!

SO I haven't written in awhile because things have been kind of crazy. Probably way too much to write but here goes everything. Let's see. Different aspects of my life would include school, my job, family, friends, and the boyfriend. Believe it or not people, I'm having problems with EVERY aspect I just listed.

Let's start with school. Obviously it is the end of the semester and I am so backed up with work it's not even funny. Papers to write, finals to take, OMG when will it all end. I know, i know, it sounds like I'm complaining but after 3 yrs of college, I swear I never get use to this end of semester madness. But of course everything seems more difficult because...

The boyfriend is acting up. Yea, I'm putting it out there. Hey, we all have ways in which we express our feelings, and this just happens to be mine. After almost three years of the going back and forth he has decided this just isn't working. Isn't it crazy how it takes two people to get into the relationship but just one to get out of it? You have no say, how you feel doesn't matter. All you can do it accept the fact that the person you know deep down inside is meant for you, can't see the real truths. & the hardest part is after trying about 4 times to make things work you know the LOGICAL thing to do is to let go. That's what men do, think "logically." But it's difficult when your heart tells you, letting go isn't the way to go. It's all way too difficult. So...you folks could only understand the type of stress I'm under. & Really this seems to be ruining other parts of my life too...i.e. my job.

The other day because I was having a discussion with him about the relationship, I totally missed work which I thought would be okay at the time. I mean come on, I personally believe nothing at Club Monaco is more important than me doing what I think is more important for me. But not only that, my boss be trippin'. Yep I said it. That chick is crazy. She obviously thinks I'm not doing a good job there which is blowing my mind. I mean I did wonderfully on my appraisal, got a raise a month ago, but yet I'm not doing well. tsk tsk. It's okay though, I can handle her.

Oh yea, so I guess I exaggerated. My friends are the shit and I don't know where I would be without them :) and my family is quite the supportive bunch. I guess I just wanted to get it all out and hopefully I'll be back soon with more positive post.

On a brighter note, Happy Mother's Day to all of the mommies out there :)